What would you guys doo????

iam in a situation that i dont know what to do!


i ve been with my b.f for 3 1/2 years and we love each other soo much and i know it for sure. like about 1 month ago he told me that he wanted a break i said ok and was upset he said it wont be 4eva. then after 2 weeks he said he dont want to be with me and i ask him do you have another gf he said no. then i asked him about few more times and he said he likes some one but dnt know whats going on.. about 2 weeks later he i asked him again about his new gf. he said he has feelings 4 her and i asked is there any chance we will et back together and he said idk maybe.





me and his mom are really close he loves me / like me a lot we talk i visit her and he knows all his family knows me and likes me. also his mom an dhim are really close and he tells her everything, but he dont tell her anithing about another girl when she askes. he tell me that he alwasy will be there for me and he still loves me and cares have feeling also, but he is tired tha ti nag him 2much and i alwasy want things my way. he works and dont really have time for me so few days ago i asked him ...





if you dont have time for me cuz u alwasy work how u have time for her and he said i dont and she dont say nthig about it. my friends who know me and him and even who dont know sasy taht they fell that he lies abut about another girl . sometiomes i have a feeling that its a lie also. he changes his answers to the same question about her when i ask almost all the time. few days ago i seen his mom and we talked she said to me that she loves me and she told him that also and that she knoes that he loves me and he told her he needs time to breath. and she gave me good advice tha i agree and so did my friends.


1. be his friend


2. dont nag him if he said no then dont aks 1000 times again about something


3. no maa what dont talk about his gf. if he does or if he dosent


just act like she not there.





i told him that i feel that when he has time to see me he just dont want to and he said yes, because when i do see him i alwasy say soemthing negative. and waht hurt me the most he said that " what you feel for me , i feel for the new girll"





i dont really belive it cuz what i feel for him took me 3 years to feel and he knows her few months.








p.s and if he didn love me and care and really had another g.f why whould he be answering my phone calls and calling me tim eto time, calling me back??





if anyone have an advice plzz let me know !!!








then i talk to him on a phone for an hour and i told him how i know that i need to change things about me and i will and i will be his friend and he said no prob.


i wont nag his and ***** about things.














and yest. i seen him and we talk with him. i made shure i look cute and i've seen him looking. i show him my graduation pictures and he looked at it with so much care and love.


then we went to eat and i wsa like look u like my nails and he said yeah its nice and i was like and my toes to and he said i've seen it all ready!!! what it mean for me that he ws looking.


then when we walk to the train station he seen that many guys look at me and my shirt was keep goin up and you can see some skin and he said to me pull down ur shirt. i think he didnt like that other guys looked at me liek that but y he says that he dont want to be with me if he loves me.


and b4 i left he said that he seen me wearing all pink and i was with some guy. (true few days ago i was wearing all pink and i went with my cousin to the beach to talk a walk at night ) he dont know how my cousin looks.


so i was liek what u spy on me he didnt answer then i asked again he said no. in a way like yeah kinda.





when i told this to his mom she said they guy wants to know hat u doing and he didnt see me for about 3 weeks.


then not long ago i asked him about his g/f and how i dont believe it and he got man and said what u want to see her pic on my phone and i said no thakn you.


so i wantes to check and i ask him out of no where i wnt to see her pic and he said why so u can ***** and get mad and he said why does it matter.i was like no i just want to seee her how she look and all. he said no .


y would u ask why does it matter if you know i love you and want to be with you and dont wat u 2gether with her





...well then i though about something....idk if you guys will agree..,.





i put my self in his shoes. and asked my self ...


if i lie to him about my new bf. say i i have it and he will be asking me about him all the time how he looks and where we met and i love him and all that stuff that i ask him.


i would get mad and annoyd cuz iam 4get what i said b4 and i would't want to hear my le over and over again rightt????

















whne i talk 2 him he talks to me like be4 when i was his gf. he explains what he did yest. (he got a new tatoo) and how it looks and he said many people like it and i was liek who he said his friend who went with him and his roomate and people on the streets thats all. so i was lie cool.





and then i said that now i want to see him more then b4 cuz of his new tatooo and he said u'l see it.


then he said he was ironing his clouth so i was like what u ned to look hot?





and he laugh and said that he wont say sometihng that he wanted to say but i was like just say it and he said cuz u never know who you will see...





so if he did have another gf. then he would not say soemthing like this.











i want to let him go but soemething telling me not to. and its telling me just to give time timeee and space.














so plzz guys sorry its to long thannk you for who ever read it and give me some advice.


plzz dont write back to me and say leave him... cuz i know that i can do that.


if anyne have their opinion and diffrent point if view what to do and how to get him back and how to show him that i've change.


and if you think he really loves mee and cares. and about his new gf.

What would you guys doo????
Wow what was the question?


Seriously, 1. Be his friend


It seems like he desires another and if it don't work out you can catch him on the rebound.


You have to stop taking walks at night on the beach with your guy cousin. The optics are just bad.


Give him the space he needs because you seem almost obsessed with getting back together after you agreed to split up when you now realize you had it all.


Hope it works out.
Reply:whoahh you know what you need to do....


you need to get a dictionary to spell things. seriously. and uhm you confuse me with all of your words.
Reply:I am sure he still has feelings, but the new girl was new and flirted and got his attention. I am sure you have been flatered with another guy hits on you. You just have better morels.





This may be just a crush, but he made the choice to follow his urge rather than be faithful to you and a possible future.





If you started dating very young, he may want to know what it is like to be with someone new. This may take him years to get out of his system and will only hurt you more.





If you were strong enough to turn the tables you may find out his true feelings. It is a risk, but you will know.





Do not call him or take his calls. Find someone to date and make sure he knows you are out with another guy. After he knows do not talk to him for a few days and do not give him any clues to how your dating is going. His mind will think of things worse than anything you would do.





See if he comes back to you.





Good luck
Reply:I really dont think that guy is capable of love. I mean, he gets tattoos, sounds like he is a male shovanist. He expects to be able to go do guy things and show off his body while he criticizes you for showing any skin. Thats a doubble standard. and I dont think you can get him back, and youre right, he doesnt have a new girlfriend.





Hes using that excuse to try to put you through the pain you put him through. it sounds like hes very insecure and not too confidant about himself, so he gets upset when you get attention from other guys. this also shows he has trust issues. maybe hes had his heart broken before or maybe he has a bad famly life/has had someone close have their heart broken and is scared to take that chance himself.





So he has trust issues, has some doubble standard stuff going on, and is trying to get back at you for somehow causing him a ton of pain in his life. One of those ways would probably be accepting attention from other guys, and maybe he doesnt like how much you like fashon. Have you always liked the things you like now or where you different when you first met? and have his values changed?





Theres always a chance you can get back together, but hes hurt and right now hes mad as hell at you for being hurt. The best thing you can do it talk to him about all this and try somehow to show him that youre sorry for any pain that you caused him and that you want to at least still be friends and ask how you can make that up to him and if he can be more honest with you.





Not easy, but yeah, he sounds like a nice guy, I wouldnt break up with him, he just has issues with how he handles things, probably has had some **** happen in his life, and need you to be more supportive and more in charge. And by in charge I mean dont attract attention from other guys, and instead of him always standing up for you, you need to stand up for him sometimes to help make him feel safe and show he can trust you. Even tough guys need that sometimes. sounds like he does.





Try being a bit tomboyish, and still loving and whatnot. It can really help alot. and best of luck, sounds like you can get him back and be even closer than ever, just might take a while and probably will take a bit of fighting and crying too, but hey, if its worth it, its worth it.








*being tomboyish will help him trust you being around other guys because hell know you can tell them where to head. if he doesnt need to stand up for you all the time, then he can have a better time trusting you, hell, if you stand up for him, that really shows he can trust you standing up for yourself and all. Just dont break his heart if you are willing to do that, because it hurts the most when you get your heart broken by a tomboyish girl like the kind Im describing.
Reply:thats pretty long.


i say just make sure you always look good.


obviously you never know when hes watching ;)


if he likes another girl then whatever.


look hot, go out with your friends, and play the same field.


get out and get him off your mind.


really, hes only screaming to you that he wants space. so give it to him.


dont make it so it hurts your chest being away from him, but occupy yourself. go do other stuff with your friends and such.


try dating other guys, you do realize you 2 aren't going out right?


hes probably doing it, so get out there and have fun too!
Reply:I agree with Wiggly
Reply:Wow, that is a long story.





I think you're mostly right. He seems to still like you, but I'm not sure if he wants to be more than a friend.





However, he does seem to want time and space. I think he got tired of attachment and wanted to see what other girls he could find. You should give him the time that he wants, and he might or might not want you to be his girlfriend again.





I would try dating other people casually. It might make him more interested in you, and you won't seem like you're waiting on him. (You also might meet someone better).





He seems like a good friend, so try to keep things that way until he's ready to have a relationship again.