Please answer honestly....?

Lets just say that your 12 year old daughter tore a small patch of skin off your 9 year old daughters face in a fit of rage. She is grounded from the phone and computer. When people ask you in front of both daughters what happened, would you answer honestly? Would you embarrass your daughter more? Why or why not?

Please answer honestly....?
Maybe the 9 year old was the one who started the fight. Don't purposely try to embarrass your 12 year old daughter just because you think that your 9 year old is better or more whatever. She probably feels bad enough without you her mother treating her like crap. Like shes nothing!
Reply:I'd answer honestly. At 12, she should be able to control her rage, and not lash out at someone younger, smaller and weaker. It's getting what she deserves. She has to deal with the consequences of her actions.





Edit: I'm sorry, but nothing that a nine year old could do would warrant physical assault from her sister. Violence is violence, no matter which way you paint it. She should still have the mind to control her actions or accept the consequences. There is no excuse (especially "but she started it!") for being violent towards another person.
Reply:Just say they had a spat.


If they want to know more tell them "you have to ask them about it."
Reply:I would just say "it's a family matter" and leave it at that. It's nobody's business - and your kids deserve their privacy - even if what your daughter did was wrong.
Reply:I probably would not tell them anything, I do not like everyone knowing my personal business.





Your daughter needs to know what she did is very wrong and that she is at the age where she can control her rage, no matter how mad her sister makes her.
Reply:dont embarass her more. It could have been an accident and telling people and making her feel worse could cause her to act out even worse. Its no ones business to ask personally, but if you want to tell people something, then just let them know that it was an accident.
Reply:I wouldn't go into detail, I would simply say that the girls got into a fight and that it was an accident. Personally, I think you're being way too easy on your daughter. Ripping a patch of skin off of someone is not a small deal. Grounding her from the outside world and the TV for a month as well would be better. But that is just my opinion.
Reply:no, i would say she fell and scraped her face or something. you don't want everyone to get the idea that you can't control your kids or that they hate each other...
Reply:I would just say to people that she hurt her sister and not go into specifics, im sure she already feels bad about what she has done and her feeling humiliating in front of other people will only give her bad self esteem
Reply:I'd answer honestly but just say that your two kids got in a squabble, no details. You don't want to lie about it.





But seriously, your 12 year old should be punished more than just from the phone and the computer. She shouldn't be able to hang out with friends for a while either - that is really awful that she hurt your 9-year-old that badly. If it was just a scratch, no biggie, but a small patch of skin? eeks.
Reply:First off, your 12 year old needs to be grounded from more that just the phone and computor. She needs to be grounded from everything and make her *** do chores. That is totally unexceptable. If I were to have done that to my brother when I was younger, I would have gotten my *** beat and grounded for 2 months. I don't encourage beating a child, lol. That was my father though, I hate him. Anyways, she needs to know that it was wrong, i'd embarass her to the fullest. She deserves to know what she did was wrong and if it happens again, that is what would happen.
Reply:tell the truth to see if they see if they see how stupid it sounds and looks.


they should also get beat not taking away computer cuz thats not how you punish someone.


my mom spanked me and stuff and that fixed me right up.


you have to learn how to discipline your kids!!
Reply:i can see why your embarrass i mean i would i think you you have to decide to tell or not and i think it is a bit personal but if you want to tell you will just have to get used to the embarrasment
Reply:I would answer honestly.
Reply:whoa ur daughter tore a peice of skin of her sisters face when people ask tell ur daughter to tell them if she is there if she isn't u cna tell them then she will know for sure wat she did was wrong
Reply:It would depend on who the people were. If they were total strangers or just acquaintances, I would feel that it was none of their business.





If it was family, I would have probably told them right after it happened. What can I say...I'm close to my family.





And I'm in shock that you say this is your 9 year olds fault. Regardless of what this child did, NOTHING deserves physical abuse. That is absolutely absurd to even think. That is basically saying that if you say/do something wrong, you deserve to be physically hurt....That's not what we teach children!
Reply:Be honest. The older sister screwed up more, but if both made mistakes, both have to learn from them. People knowing about their mistakes is part of that process.

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