What do we do?

My fiance's family members are really, really starting to make us mad. I won't go into the whole thing, but they do certain things that just tick us off. First, his mother keeps asking me when I'm gonna give her some grandbabies. Annoying, to say the least. Then, they all call my fiance when he's at work to tell him things they know are gonna make him mad. Since we're not anywhere near where they live, they feel they have to keep him apprised (sp?) of EVERY single thing that happens, and most of it is stuff that gets under his skin. Like, they call him to tell him his sister tried to take her kids again. She signed a paper giving up her parental rights, and now, she's trying to take them from her husband. Anyway, hell, if his nephew takes a dump in his diaper, they call him to tell him how much it stinks. We've gotten rid of our Verizon Wireless phones and got a pre-paid Tracfone phone. Now, they call the house every ten minutes looking for him even when they know he's working. Help!!!

What do we do?
Oh brother, the "when are you gonna give us grand babies" routine! I really HATE that one....or the one that goes "They're getting married? I bet she pregnant"...UGH!!





Anyway, next time the baby question comes up, just tell them you'll have babies when God gives them to you. That usually shuts them up. Then, if they persist, just tell them you've got plenty of time for a family, and when you think the time is right, they'll be the first to know after you.





On the calling all the time, just don't give them your number, and have it blocked from view when you make calls on your cell phones. If they ask why, just tell them he's been getting too many calls at work %26amp; it's jeopardising his job, and he can't seem to get it stopped, so you're blocking calls.





You try to be as nice as you can about some of these things, but somtimes people don't recognize that you're, in a nice way, trying to tell them to mind their own business. If they don't "get it" in what you think is a reasonable amount of time, just tell them straight up it's not something they should be concerned about. And if THAT doesn't shut them up, bring out the big gun and tell them you tried to tell them in a nice way to mind their own business, but now you're telling them, "MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!"





Good luck!
Reply:Change to an unlisted phone number, and don't give it to them until they promise to only call in a true life or death emergency.
Reply:Caller ID is a wonderful thing. Just don't answer the phone when they call unless you can handle their conversation. You don't HAVE to answer it every time it rings. Let it go to voice mail.
Reply:Wow! Thats a tough one. As far as the grandbabies-pressure goes, tell her that she'll just have to wait. You and your fiance want to have a few years to just enjoy being married. The first few years can be tough, and you'll really want to *grow* as a couple, before adding on any members to your home. As for the phone calls, have him talk to his family. Explain that they can't be disrupting his work schedule just to chitchat. And that at home, you also need some space. Make a schedule of times when y'all can catch up on each others' lives. Say Sunday afternoons and Wednesday evenings? A few times a week is plenty of time to get all the details without being invasive. Just be honest, and firm with setting your boundaries :-)
Reply:Wow, they sound like an interesting bunch. Since you're not married, he will have to take the lead. Maybe encourage them to use e-mail or write a letter. It certainly isn't appropriate for them to be asking about grandbabbies. For all they know, you might have just found out that you can't conceive and that it's very hard for you to talk about it. He needs to let them know that their involvement in his relationship is wearing on the both of you...that he wants to talk to them, and will do his best to keep in touch with them, but every ten minutes is way overboard. If they don't respond, then you need to get new phones and not tell them the phone number. They'll have to e-mail in an emergency.

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