I still hate my dark skin?

i still can't get over being a darkskin black woman





today i talked to guy friend who was raving about this new friend he met who is very lightskin with long hair and hazel eyes. he stated that she was the most beautiful black woman ever. this made me feel so insecure and ugly because i am dark with dark eyes. i got off the phone with him and just cried. i often wonder if i were lightskin would men think of me the same way. i even bleach my skin but i never can get to vanessa williams color, i am still oprah winfrey's complexion):





i avoid clubs because when i go usually the lightskin girls get approached the most, and i don't stand out because my skin is not light enough. sometimes i wish i could find a doctor to make me white all over. i have searched before in the past but to no luck. all the creams they give me don't make me white or light enough





help me what should i do? i am so depressed

I still hate my dark skin?
you need a confidence boost, i'm lightskin with dark brown eyes and black natural hair...i have been made fun of constantly for my complexion (white girl, lite brite, china baby, nappy head), but i don't care because i look at myself in the mirror and know that i am pretty. that's why guys like me, i have an aura about me that gives off confidence. besides alot of guys approach lightskin girls because they believe lightskin girls are easier to have sex with. if your pretty and darkskin guys feel as though it's too much work they have to put in, guys are losers! stop trying to impress guys and be happy with yourself. .
Reply:ma, first off be proud of who you are. trust me light skinned chicks ain't always were it is at. I love dark skinned women, and many other men do as well. just give it some time.
Reply:Im white and i think all women are beautiful
Reply:Girl, black is beautiful! Be proud of who you are! I'm light-skinned and I used to want to be darker because people would always tease me about being "white". lol But now I accept who I am and you should too!
Reply:theirs nothing wrong with some dark chocolate, if people are gonna have a problem with you because of your complexion maybe they are not worth your time. self confidantes will make that skin of yours hella sexy
Reply:I can tell you right off the bad that probably the biggest reason you don't get approached is because you're not confident.





Yes, there is a strong media preference for light skinned black women over dark, but that doesn't mean that every individual light-skinned woman is more beautiful than every


individual dark-skinned woman. Gabrielle Union, Kenya Moore, Naomi Campbell, Joy Bryant, Kelly Rowland, Dani (America's Next Top Model winner), and Nia Long are just a few examples of dark-skinned beauties.





Carry yourself with confidence and class and you will radiate beauty. Don't let some guys preference or what you see on television determine how you think of yourself. You will ruin your beautiful God-given skin trying to be someone you're not.





Please seek counseling so they can help you recover your self esteem. You're not alone in feeling this way, which is the sad thing.
Reply:darker skin are more exotic and beautiful and having dark eyes like yours should be very attention getting. it seems like all you need to do is learn how to put on some eye shadows to bring out your eyes and dress in colors that don't make you look too dark. go with clothes with a natural look. if your worried about getting more dark, wear sun screen when your in the sun or wearing short sleeves and shorts. Love yourself before you want others to love you
Reply:i almost felt sorry for your damn *** but your cursin jesus micheal jackson.


im sorry mrs jackson oooooooh i am fo reeeeeaaaaaaaal
Reply:I am a dark skinned black woman and I know how you feel. When I was younger I felt that way but now that I'm older I love my complexion. Girl black don't crack and I don't look my age. Don't hate what God have given to you. Love yourself and you will then love your skin.
Reply:For the past few weeks , every website I went ( including this one ) there was this message that in real life white / caucasian men only wanted / desired dark skinned and medium skinned black women , and that really made me depressed , because I'm a light skinned woman of color ( I'm multiracial ) and they believed that women like me were very conceited or that we were all that , etc , thanks to women like Beyonce and Halle Berry ( no offense ) , the Media and many other reasons





But one day when I was walking down the street I saw a few IR Couples and the women they were with ranged from light to medium to dark skin and that made me realize that every one of us are beautiful in our own way , indians , arabians , latinas , asians , white , black , etc





It made me realize that everybody has their own tastes , their own preferences , that what somebody might find attractive might not be another's opinion , that beauty is truly the eye of the beholder , that there is somebody who will love you for who you are and that somebody will love me as well





That you have to stop worrying , it's just like that same bullshit that women have to be light eyed , light haired and light skinned to be seen as attractive , such as blonde or red hair ( which also got me depressed )





And remenber you can't let anyone make you feel bad just because you don't meet or fit into their expectacions





See what God has given you and appreciate it , be comfortable in your own skin , it's beautiful , be happy for who you are , embrace it





P.S.





I agree with *THiS COULD BE SUMME… answer , that maybe one of the reasons that youd don't get approached is because you aren't confident and that you have to start carrying yourself with class and confidence and if you don't believe in yourself , who's going to believe in you ?