His sons mother is starting to cause us problems.?

His sons mother is really aggrivating us, and starting to start slight problems between us now. She never shows up when she is supposed to pick them up, no answer when we try to call. 6pm always turns to 11pm or later. She calls and trys to pick fights with him on the phone. Its really beginning to get under my skin. ohhh and of course i'm the problem, the reason he makes a fuss over her disappearing when its time for them to go home on sunday night...





Any advice on baby mama drama?

His sons mother is starting to cause us problems.?
he needs 2 man up
Reply:Yeah do not allow her to pick up the children for visitation if she refuses to show up at the pick up time. No court in the country is gonna allow her to get away with that. The rules are simple, you get to pick them up for visitation at an agreed time, and if you do not show up at the agreed time, you forfeit your rights for that day. Put this trouble maker in her place already. Start by not answering your door, or phones.
Reply:Tell her if she's not there by 6:15pm, don't even come at all. If she has a problem with that, call the police, lawyer, whatever.. Best to cut all communication with this woman because anything you say in the interim is going to be twisted and hearsay. Keep it professional and if she's not there by 6pm, take the son out to eat or something, her fault for not showing up at the designated time.
Reply:Yep, just ignore it. I know this sounds simplistic, but it's the only way, having been through this myself. If you don't ignore it, she WILL come between you. He's not going to confront her because chances are, he doesn't think it's worth the battle. It's not your place to deal with it, unfortunately. Just hold your breath and count to 10. After a couple years, it won't bother you.
Reply:That's a tough one because he is tied to her for life. My advice, don't deal with her, leave that to him and there really is no point in arguing with him over her because he cannot control what she does. He hates it as much as do. His hands are somewhat tied because of the kids' sake. Best thing, be extremely happy if you deal with her. When she is late, tell her its OK because you love having the kids over, very bonding for you. Just being the all round happy, functional family is the best revenge you can get. As for the fights on the phone, if he just stays quite and doesn't let her suck him in to the argument, she will know that there is nothing left that she can do to hurt your relationship. I dealt that way with my ex, he eventually started to realize that he looked like an a$$hole that couldn't get on with his life. We were embarrassed for him.
Reply:He wants to blame you for his ex wife's actions??? You need to dump him.