Girlfriend Problems?

I am devasted. Arrived at my girlfriends flat unexpectedly last night. I let myself in and as I entered I could hear the unmistakeable sounds of runting coming from the bedroom. I flung open the door and there was my girlfriend naked having s-ex with a dark skinned guy (Brazilian). I froze, then stormed out. I know I should have punched someones lights out, but I just went into denial.Been off work today and drinking. Not sure of my next move. Girl has been ringing my number all day. I just pick up he phone and let it drop.

Girlfriend Problems?
Your girlfriend is to blame in this case. Dump Her. Have nothing further to do with her. Consider yourself lucky that you have found out what she is really like and you will be better off without her.
Reply:Take a couple days to cool down.


Then try talking to her.
Reply:Move on - it's over. You'd never trust her again.
Reply:Dump her, drop off a box of her crap on her doorstep and demand your stuff back.
Reply:Just say the word and I'll kick her ***.


(Seeing as how it's more acceptable for a girl to hit a girl, and not a guy to hit a girl)
Reply:I don't know, but I sympathise. I'd never do anything like that to a boyfriend.
Reply:no reason to blame him, she was the one who put it out, he simply took it as most guys will do. He would not have been there had she not wanted him there. Run fast and leave her alone, you can do better.
Reply:Ouch...sorry there's no other words coming here...expect maybe revenge
Reply:Similar thing went my way few days ago... caught my gf shifting somebody not far from where we lived. I simply burnt all her clothes and told her to pack the remainder of her stuff, and had her gone back to her parents and out of my life in less than 12 hours. I suggest you do the same.
Reply:Do the same thing back, make plans with a girl then call your EX up and tell her you want to talk to her and invite her over. Leave the door unlocked, and tell her you might be in the shower. When she arrives be in the shower with some hott girl. Then she will know how it feels. You don't need her find you a good woman.
Reply:Sorry for your loss, but she's not worth it.


Don't go back to that ***** ever again.


F*ck it dude she's a sIut.
Reply:once a cheater always a cheater I believe and if she is going to do that to you then you don't need her go out get another very atttractive GF and let her see you with her laughing and smilling
Reply:I think you're handling it okay by ignoring her; nothing she could say could excuse what she did so why bother to listen to it? Do try to lay off the sauce though, and keep some self respect.
Reply:leave her. honestly she doesnt care about your feelings if she is whiling to go behind your back and have sex withsomeone else. and what will be her excuse when she does talk to u?? "oh he fell on me naked?" i mean comon she F'd up and you need to find a girl thats not going to fool around on you and lie to you. you deserve much more then that. i say dont answer her calls or if you do tell her its over and your moving on with your life. yes will hurt and be hard at first but trust me you are better off!!


good luck!!
Reply:You may want to eventually talk for closure but believe me the the trust will never be there.
Reply:omg thats soo sad. break up with her she doesnt diserve u.
Reply:ask her what it was all about and if you luv her that much i am sure you can work things out and if not tell her you can't take being with a cheater
Reply:It all depends on how you feel when your with her.


Do you honestly love her? Thats the main question. Yes she broke your trust and i'm not saying cheating is okay. Because it's not. It's horrible. Explain that to her. Tell her you lost my trust. I loved you.


If you really want her back then explain to her she has to earn your trust back. Tell her she really messed up and it's not okay.


If your not okay with it and she really wasn't that important to you then let it go. Tell her it's over and she effed up. But don't let any hope of getting back together linger for too long.


I'm sorry your girlfriend cheated. Thats hard for anyone. Hope you get through it.
Reply:it looks as though she didn't really love you if she did this to you. drop her because you'll never forgive her or forget either.


find someone else who you can trust your love with. trust is the one of the most important things in a relationship.
Reply:oh dear bit of a situation here





i know maybe you dont want to at the minute but you have to hear what she has to say for herself!





when you have done this, tell her you need time to think, and think if you want her back after what she has done but make sure if you do that she knows she carnt get away with it again





and make sure you will be able to carry on without argueing because that si never good and will most likly end up in a break up, fast.





Good luck mate xxxx
Reply:Tell her not to ever call you again. That you want nothing to do with her. Get yourself a new girlfriend.
Reply:Cool off... dont talk to her right now.... you need time... and know you have ppl here for you. you deserve so much better
Reply:Just know that nothing she could ever do will keep it from bothering you in some way. I know that it might be hard for you but u need to move on. Talking to her may not be a bad thing though (she might give u insight on to why she cheated on you, and maybe u can keep it from happening in the future) but continuing the relationship is not something that I'd suggest.
Reply:Accept that you girl has been sleeping around and may do again. Then make sure YOU dump her and move on.





If you don't do the dumping it will be you that suffers by low esteem over the long run which will take years to recover from.





Move on now and get your two timing g/friend out of your life now. You know you deserve better.
Reply:Listen man, I know people makes mistakes…. I think what u need to do is make her realize that she fu***d up. If it would have been me and I would have found my boyfriend with another girl I would have beat her up then him… I’m just that way but I’m going to tell you what my mom has always told me…..





IF YOUR LOVER CHEATS THEN YOU DON’T NEED THEM, THERE IS MORE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WILL APPRECIATE YOU FOR WHO U ARE.





Don’t let it get to you… talk to her and let her know that if she can’t be faithful that you don’t want to be with her. If she says she wants to be with you, go ahead and give her another chance… but I’m going to tell you from experience, if she cheats once she will dang sure do it again…………..GOODLUCK!!!
Reply:You have every single right to mad and upset right now. You were betrayed by your girlfriend and it probably is best that you don't talk to her right now... at least I wouldn't. I'm sorry this happened to you. If your girlfriend tries to give you the "It was a mistake" or "It will never happen again" line then go on with caution. If you get back with her it will always bug you and it would be hard for you to be happy with her. When I found out my ex cheated on me.. I lost all contact with him and changed my number. He still chases me and I have the satisfactory knowing he regrets and that I'm a better person that he is.
Reply:saucy thats awful, f*cking shocking to say the least, do you love her? are you willing to forgive her and put it all behind you? myself i wouldnt, if your strong and brave walk away and never have anything to do with her again, thank god you neva punched anyones lights out coz that would have caused more problems that it solved. your worth a lot more saucy and you know it, what about having a break from the ladies, take some time out for healing, then put your self back on the market knowing what a great catch you are! good luck and take care x
Reply:awww im sorry


dont drink its not worth it you need to get rid of her and fast you dont know what she couldve caught from him and you dont know if shes cheated on you before once a cheater always a cheater


but your you so do what you think is best but i know what i would do


good luck hun x
Reply:i am sorry to hear that. TRY carrying on normally, go to work like you normally would, give it a few days, get your head together. The more you think about it the harder it is. It will be hard at first and it will be hard to come to whatever decision you decide to. Drinking will only make it worse my friend. Confide in a friend, that might make you feel a little better. i hope it all gets resolved for you.
Reply:Dont even think about taking her back - there is no excuse for cheating. Do remember though that revenge is a dish best served cold.....
Reply:oh no, i can't begin to imagine how you're feeling. you're doing the right thing by ignoring her, it's too soon to talk, you need to clear your head first. The thing is, unless you walked in on your girlfriend, you would have never found out!! How many times might this have happened before?? You can't trust her. I think it's best to break away from her now, it's only going to get harder as time goes on otherwise. You'll never be able to look at her the same, and any time you're with her, you're going to be re-playing what happened in your mind. Please don't listen to her sorry excuses, i know you may love her, but the feeling obviously isn't mutual (sorry for being harsh). If you stay with this girl, you'll be constantly paranoid. For your own sanity, steer clear. I hope the pain eases soon, be strong xx

baby jade