my ex of 3.5 years brock up with me cuz he said i nag and *****. to much i want things my way. and after when i took a look at somethings he were right. and i know what i have to change.
the things is , is that he told me that he got another gurl. the onlii way he told me this was cuz i nag him to much about it! when i didnt ask he dont say anything about her. when i ask him like whats her name how she look he says dont worry about it and its not important.
i think that if i were him and if he would be asking me so much about my "new bf" then i would also be like 4get about it and its not important!
well thank got that he still talk 2 me. i told him that i see things that i did wrong and i will change that way i was liek for now i want to be ur friend and i will always be there 4 u if u need me and he said okey.
then after that i still nag him and he said that what i say is bull **** cuz i dont change.
after that i didnt talk 2 him for like 3 days then i text him to see how he was doing and he was like.. iam about to go chill with my gurl.
i did t believe him and i was like okey have fun and be safe! next day his mom called me to talk 2 me about something about said to me that he was over her house yest. the time was the same when he told me that he was about to go chill wit her.
my cousin said that he did that to check on me like what i would say if i would nag him or ***** about it. iam happy i did the right thing and just with him to have a happy time.
i know he loves me and cares he even said that himself after a break up. when i ask him do u think we can be 2gether he says idk
there are times now when we talk on the phone for hours and not get bord.
if he would have another gf. why would he be talking to me for long, checking me if i would ***** about things or nag him.
he told his mom he needs time to breath and didntell her about his new gf. and they are close he tells her everything.
so do u guys think he wants me back? because the small things that he say or do to me like when we was walking and my shirt went up a lil and my skin was shown (iam not a ****, i dont show much of my body at all)
he told me to put my shirt down. then when i play around and be like ohhh we can still have sex and he be like ohh iam not a cheater and then i say me 2 we can still have fun. he says ill think about it.
or when he looks at me i cnn see in his eyes he lovess and misss me!!!!
like all of this show me he loves me and cares i know i have to give it time but do u think he loves me and wants me back slowlii just to be friends for now then let it grow?
p.s i thank all of you who will answer me and support mme cuz iam reallii goin through bad and hard times and plzz no bull liek leave him alone and move on or anything like that i really want to hear a good answers that u guys can give me thnak you!
Does he want me back???
Well sometimes a good answer and what you want to hear are two totally different thing. You may as well say don't tell me the truth, tell me what I want to hear. Just because people may tell you what YOU want the HEAR, doesn't make it a good answer. Deep down in your heart you know the answer to your question, however, you don't want to accept it. Accepting the truth is all a part of growing up. Life does not always go the way we would like for it to. The most important thing is that we learn from mistakes and become better people. For now the best thing is for you to move on with your life. If you two were meant to be together then somewhere down the line you will be together. If not, then believe it or not life goes on and you will meet other guys that will make you forget all about this guy. In the meantime, the Caveman will be praying for you. I wish you all the best. Peace and God bless.
Reply:Well, I hope he does.
Reply:^^ HEY, can I get an autograph on that novel? ^^
I hope so... best I can say.
Reply:Well............I personally hope he does.. if not im all urs! =Þ
Reply:Oh yeah girl he wants you back! go back and have make up sex with him!!!
Have Fun!
Reply:you need to back off and if he comes runnin' back, then there's a chance. seems to me that you're acting a little bit too desperate.
Reply:probably
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Reply:In addition to nag and b**ch, I'd add whine. Beyond that, ex's are ex's for a reason so let it go.
Reply:You need to accept him as he is. It is not your job to change him, and you can NOT change him. What you see is what you get. Are you nagging about the big things or just the small things? Now, the question is, are you willing to live with who and how he truly is? Be true to yourself and honest with yourself. If you are not, then he is really not the man for you. IF you are willing to accept him without trying to change him, then he will eventually come back around.
Reply:I think he just misses your stimulating intellectual discussions on important topics and perhaps your scholarly insights.
Reply:We all have issues. If one of yours is the need to feel in control of your surroundings that is one thing that you can definately work on.
You deserve to be in a healthy relationship. I am sure part of you nags because he is not meeting your needs or he is being irresponsibile. It is ok for you to move on and find someone stronger... and responsible. Someone who can bring the same as what you bring to a relationship.
Keep smiling and dont let people dog you because of their own faults. You clearly care deeply about him. If he cannot see that... its his loss... never yours.
Good luck
Reply:yes he might! And if he dont he stinks ok! its his lose. Cuz you sound like the kind of friend i wanna be around. and if he said you nagged or ******* 2 much. your a princess. if he didnt get you what you wanted he should -B- thrown in the dungen! "evil laugh"
Reply:no you nag to much stop nagging
Reply:You don't want the truth, you want someone to side with you... Based on your question and LETTER alone,,, you are young and a real DRAMA QUEEN..
OK, so don't move on.. hang around him, because you sound very CO-DEPENDENT on him... get your heart broke, be sad,, some of us have to learn the HARD way..
you asked and I say.. No he doesn't want you... he wants you as a back up... and if that is what you want to be.. HAVE AT IT..!!!
GO be constructive with your life, go hang around some OTHER friends if you can leave him alone for 30 days.. good luck..
Reply:I am going to tell you something that should stick with you 4ever.... They always come back it is the way you handle yourself right now that makes the difference on how they return and when. Right now you are showing exactly what he thought of you 2 be true, you are nagging him and probably getting on his nerves. He loves you no doubt about that but he needs his space. Occupy your time with something else. Don't call him don't text him nothing. Let him call you and miss his calls a couple of times. When you do talk to him do not mention his gf and don't mention how much you want to be with him. He knows trust me. Have casual conversations with him. Then he will come to terms that you are where he wants to be. If you keep up what you are doing you will push him away and when he does come back it will be to let you know that he is happy somewhere else. Be confident. Confidence is key.
Reply:Well maybe... but if you can't stop nagging an *** you will lose him. Can you do that? That is the truth as I see it, and as the source of your trouble as you said so yourself. I could tell you the root of your problem but you don't want to hear anything but good answers as you have told us and he has said you want all your own way. You said you could change, but have you? Do you expect him to change and put up with this? I am only repeating what you said. Now how well do you listen, really listen? He's told you and you heard it but don't heed it. Good luck.
Reply:Well he probably does want a 'break' from you. You love and miss him so you try to stay in as much contact with him as you can. (which is what most ppl in your situation want to do, including myself) But the best way to get someone back is to give them what they want. If he wants space, then give it to him. Also if he sees that you are not worried about him then he might want to contact you more. Right now he is playing hard to get. Flip the rolls. YOU start playing hard to get. That doesn't mean that you can't contact him at times, but just do it less than what you normally do. Make him wonder what your doing. Let him know you care but at the same time don't let him think he has you at his feet.
Also, he does NOT have a gf............trust me. If he did, he would try to 'show her off' not hide her. I think from what you have told us, that he does still love you and he wants to be with you, but you need to really work on some things. Not just long enough to get him back, but long enough to keep him. If not, then you will only loose him again if you get him back. Take time and work on any issues with yourself and make him chase you.
Good luck.......3+ years is a loooong time to just throw away! I really hope the two of you are able to work things out!
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